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Frequently Asked Questions

October, 2016: Before getting into the FAQ, I want to emphasize that this site is running on very old software which needs to be replaced. Since September, 2012 I have been running both CRUISING for ESCORTS (CFE) and the much larger CRUISING for SEX (CFS) site single-handedly following Keith's passing. The time and resources to update both sites and make them more modern and user-friendly has simply been unavailable, and many other personal matters also intervened.

I've started the process of rethinking my business plan and corporate structure with assistance from a tax and business adviser. Soon I hope to begin negotiations with others for assistance with CFS and start coming up with a new plan to upgrade the current version of CFE.

Your patience in this process is deeply appreciated.
FAQ These questions and answers are the most recent version of the ones the late Keith Griffith, founder of CRUISING for ESCORTS, had written and adjusted since the beginning of the site as I worked with him in the early 2000s. Having been first entrusted by his estate in 2012 to run the site and later acquiring it, I made further revisions to be more transparent about the Editorial Policy I had received from Keith.

Now with over three years experience in charge of the site, I see that the Editorial Policy and these FAQs need substantial revision. The nature and environment of sex work as well as the way we use the Internet has changed in the decade-plus we've been online. Likewise, the entire CRUISING for ESCORTS site requires changes to be easier to use across computers, phones, tablets, etc. The technical changes will be a long-term project, but I am working to revise this page and the Edditorial Standards sooner.

I have been receiving information and feedback from both customers and escorts about the site's policies and our Editorial Standards, and I will be publishing a new version as soon as I can. Please be patient as there as many time constraints and other responsibilities I must meet.

In any case, you are welcome at CRUISING for ESCORTS whether you are a customer or an escort, and I will read and respond if you contact me, although there is unfortunately almost always a delay in the replies.

Bob S.
Manager / Editor
cruisingforsex.com ~ cruisingforescorts.com
1. What exactly is meant by escorting?
2. Is it legal to hire someone for companionship?
3. How reliable are these reviews?
4. Why is a review I submitted not online?
5. How much do you pay someone and what is the usual protocol?
6. Are escorts mostly dishonest and liars?
7. Can you recommend a place to call with questions I have about sexual practices?
8. How can I contribute to this site?

1. What exactly is meant by escorting?

Escorting is the practice of someone, in the case of this website we're talking almost entirely about men, being hired to attend to the needs of another person or persons in various forms of companionship. Those needs might include dinner company, going to a performance, a walk around a strange town with someone who knows the lay of the land, or it could mean a jump in the bed for some consensual sex. Sex isn't always the end result of escorting, but it is almost always understood to be an option.

2. Is it legal to hire someone for companionship?

As guys often say, "I'm hired for my time and nothing more." There is no crime in paying someone for their companionship. On the other hand, lining someone up for sex is a crime in the USA and a few other countries. To be more precise, paying someone for sex is the crime. Arrange sex all you want, but you only get in trouble if you pass over cash to the escort and that person happens to be an undercover cop. The "Decriminalize Prostitution Now Coalition" has prepared a wonderful analysis of laws governing the profession:

http://www.sexwork.com/coalition/whatcountrieslegal.html

Given the possibility for criminal charges, it is considered bad form for a prospective client to place an escort in the awkward position of having to be sexually graphic in email correspondence or any other method of recording thoughts.

3. How reliable are these reviews?

CRUISING for ESCORTS must rely on the honesty and good will of all those who contribute reviews. It is what makes this website what it is: an honest accounting of what you get for your money when hiring someone for companionship.

Every review is subjected to editorial scrutiny (also see Question 4) before being published online, a process that can slow down reviews by as much as a week or more, though often we update more quickly. We usually try to correct spelling and grammar to certain standards, while recognizing that the Internet is a more informal medium than older forms of writing. (In other words, seeing regular punctuation, sentences, paragraphs, etc. does not signify a false review.) Before publishing any first-time review of an escort, we first make certain this person is truly an escort. We may do this by confirming they have ads online, but we may also contact the escort directly to confirm this. Escorts do get the final word with any review since they are allowed an opportunity for response or rebuttal.

Any escort may request that their reviews be removed. We do generally accept requests to remove reviews of escorts who have left the business. Usually our editorial staff will not honor other requests unless a review is clearly meant to cause harm rather than provide an honest accounting (even a negative accounting). This, of course, is sometimes hard to determine, and in the end we reserve final authority as to what reviews are allowed online.

The bottom line is that as with more mainstream review sites (e.g. Yelp, etc.) we don't have the resources or ability to verify reviews. We do not accept paid reviews or paid placement. If there is a conflict that comes down to a "he-said-he-said" situation, we cannot resolve it and can only allow the words of the reviewer and escort to speak for themselves.

Real names and identities of anyone, either escort or client, is strictly protected here at CRUISING for ESCORTS.

4. Why is a review I submitted not online?

There is always a delay of several days while we work through the queue of reviews submitted to prepare them to be placed on the web site. This includes linking the submission to any prior reviews for the escort and duplicate or close duplicates of what appear to be the same review. We also check the submission against our editorial standards.

Not every review is published, though most are. Those not published are usually those that are, if negative, a personal attack (especially assertions of non-escort-related criminal activity including theft, being a "scam artist" or similar not phrased as an opinion, STDs, extreme language, or unusual "drama") which we cannot be party to. Negative reviews that focus on how the escort performed (or not) are usually published, but reviews that appear to be settling a score will be deleted. In some cases, negative reviews which generally comply with our standards will be published with some information removed in order to be in compliance. As noted above, there are rare cases where we remove reviews already online.

5. How much do you pay someone and what is the usual protocol?

To say that fees paid escorts are all over the place is putting it mildly! We've seen some truly ridiculous ideas for what to charge someone. It definitely pays to shop around since many escorts price their time considerably different from other men available in the same region or city. This can be especially true for overnight, 24-hour or weekend rates. Much depends -- or so it seems -- on the type of work the escort desires. They may price their time to better suit the time they'd prefer devoting to any one client.

Payment should not be made until an appointment has ended. It is customary to leave cash in view, perhaps on a nearby coffee table, so the escort can confirm you have the cash, but it is always bad form for the escort to insist on payment at the beginning of an appointment. Tipping is not required, though it is welcomed. Like many services, tip if an escort provides an especially noteworthy service or goes "way beyond the call of duty." Tipping when hiring via an agency is usually an especially important consideration since the escort will end up having to split their money with the agency.

Some escorts ask for advance payment to cover travel such as airline tickets. This is standard procedure for many escorts, but clients who do this will, eventually, get burned. Part of the value of the reviews posted at CRUISING for ESCORTS is precisely because they can be used to alert clients of escorts who fail to show for appointments.

6. Are escorts mostly dishonest and liars?

Our experience would seem to reveal that escorts are no more dishonest than any other business people. An escort is frequently in a rather vulnerable position so you may find they are not easy to trust a client, but this does not automatically mean they are "out to get you." Of course some escorts will steal from clients, but this is actually rather rare, especially if you stick with men who places ads online or who buy ad space in magazines and newspapers.

Alas telling a few tall tales is part of the job so yes, escorts do lie. That doesn't mean they can't be trusted. But it does mean you should never forget this person is being paid to be nice to you and, hopefully, to make you feel good about yourself. That could involve some remarks meant to flatter rather than honestly reveal their true opinions.

7. Can you recommend a place to call with questions I have about sexual practices?

We know of one very good resource where one can speak anonymously to a real person about anything sexual. San Francisco Sex Information offers information by telephone at 415-989-7374. Phone lines are staffed by trained volunteers Monday - Friday 3pm - 9pm and Saturdays 2pm - 6pm, Pacific time. The only charge is for the phone call. Advice is free. They will take calls from anywhere in the world. These people have heard it all and offer sex-positive, nonjudgmental answers to your questions.

8. How can I contribute to this site?

The people who visit this site are the lifeblood of CRUISING for ESCORTS. Without your reviews we'd have little reason to exist. Please continue posting reviews and we'll continue sharing our information.

If you wish to contribute financially, the best thing you can do is support our advertisers. Clicking the banner ads and ad links at CRUISING for ESCORTS and patronizing our advertisers pays the bills that allow us to remain online.

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